Free Managing School Anxiety: Advice Sheet for Parents and Carers

This is a 4-page advice sheet for parents and carers on managing school anxiety in children and young people.

The key points are:

  • Maintain good communication with the school and work together on strategies to support full attendance.
  • Have a united, consistent approach from all adults supporting the child to expect school attendance.
  • Establish predictable morning and evening routines.
  • Give clear messages that school attendance is not optional and is in the child’s best interests.
  • Use planned ignoring of attempts to avoid school and stick to the agreed plan.
  • Model confidence in the plan to the child. Seek support from other adults if needed.
  • Provide short-term support into school, like taking or accompanying the child, to build good attendance habits.
  • Break down tasks into small manageable steps to build confidence.
  • Use rewards to motivate facing anxious situations, not to remove the anxiety.
  • Encourage the child to try things themselves and persist through the anxiety.
  • Support the child in problem solving and planning solutions.
  • Identify and address any underlying issues or barriers to attendance.
  • Monitor patterns through keeping a diary with the school.
  • Support your own mental health and model a calm approach.

It emphasises the importance of quick action, consistent expectations of attendance, facing anxiety-provoking situations, building confidence through small successes, addressing underlying issues, and getting support.

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